Friday, March 11, 2016

Self Harm Among Adults

The Mental Health Foundation has published an informative article titled The Truth About Self Harm

It's informational, to the point, and covers all of the FAQs including:

"Self-harm is very common and affects more people than you might think."

Who exactly?

The article got me wondering about the statistics of self harm among those of us who are older than the typical teens mentioned in the article.

It's hard enough living day to day with an illness that is widely stigmatized. I'm a person who self harms her body and didn't start until I was 30 years old. When reading about all the teens and adolescents who harm their bodies, it makes me feel smaller. It makes me feel as if what I do to my own body is further wronged because my age bracket is ignored.

I did some searching of my own online and can't find an article newer than 10 years old that states the statistics of adults (anyone over the age of 18) who self harms. I'd like someone to run a study on self harm in both men and women over the age of 25. I'd like to know that I'm not alone in this. I'd also really like to feel less like an adolescent here. 

Is it just me?

Many people don't understand why we self harm. I can assure you that it isn't for attention. If it was for attention I'd be wearing my scars proud instead of hiding them beneath clothing. I wouldn't shun away the thought of wearing a swimsuit for fear of exposure. If I wanted attention, damn it, I'd just ask for it. 

I can say that for me personally, when I mutilate my own body by way of cutting, it allows a release of existence in that moment. For just a few minutes, the blood runs out of the wound and I feel something, which is better (again, my opinion only) than feeling nothing at all. It's takes me from numb and alone to feeling a hint of being alive. It reminds me that I'm still breathing and that I have a pulse. 

I am not glorifying the act of self harm in any way. If I felt like I didn't have to do it, if I felt more in control of my illness (medication can't do it all), then I wouldn't do it. It's that simple. 

For more information about self harm and by that I mean what it is exactly and why I personally just can't stop doing it, read my post here


  1. I'm 41. First time I did it I was 14. But then I didn't do it again until I was in my 20's. It's rare that I do, but the several times that's it's happened since, it's been as an adult. You're not alone.

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